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Stess and how to not let it get on top of you

There are many situations that are stressful. Many of which are classed as life events that everyone should go through, this doesn’t make it easy or on any way better.

You see, my experience of stress has been plenty as of late. Mainly due to taking on allot of resposibility for this little person I made (he has his fathers attitude). On top of that we are in the middle of moving and planning a wedding. Crazy, right?

So our house has been chaos for what seems like forever. Little money due to deposits and double rent means we can’t just pop down to the local takeaway and eat the stress away. Which sounds like an awesome idea until you have to burn that fat off. Not fun.

Having a baby also means that we can’t just stay in bed all day. Long gone are the bed days or lie ins and to be frank I don’t miss them as much as I thought. Little cheekysaurus is a great distraction  when those niggly thoughts and worries appear.

Packing and unpacking is he’ll and whoever does that for a living, I feel bad for you. Like allot. I mean the boxes themselves vary between large and heavy to tiny and light. We have got our bedrooms mostly done which is a godsend but downstairs looks like a building site.

Which brings me to another stress point. We have no kitchen. I don’t mean that figuratively either. Before moving our landlord decided to revamp the house and got all new equipment. The downside? The builder he hired is pretty much taking his time. Which leaves us with a kitchen without a cooker, fridge or drawers. I miss the days where I could cook in my own home and didn’t have to worry about traipsing dust onto my lovely new carpet.

How have I stayed sane during this, I hear you ask? Truthfully, I havent. I’m as crazy as you think I am. Close to pulling my hair out if it weren’t for this lovely invention called daytime tv and chocolate. Cuddles help too.

So if your going through a stressful time right now and feel like the world is going loopy. Best thing to do is breathe, have a day off (turn your phone off and just lay in bed if you can) and play some games. Or maybe go for a walk to the park?

That or eat your weight in chocolate like I’m currently doing. I do not feel guilty whatsoever because I’m sharing with my baby and he loves his buttons!


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Bra’s: Why they make you cry.

If you are female, then you already know why. If you are not, then I believe you are lucky. So very, very lucky. Bra’s are a very temperamental creature. You have soft, pretty and frilly ones that cost an arm and a leg (Lets say £30?). You have sturdy, comfy bras that set you back a pretty penny or two (My comfy bra cost £24 as a set. Praise ASDA) and then you have the useless but beautiful bras or the reverse ugly but practical bras (These range from £10 to £200).

Then you have sizes. You have the A’s, B’s, C’s which are classed as basic ( I am happily in the B section, though I doubt for much longer *sad face*) and then you have D’s, E’s, F’s. These girls are always stuck with the duller bras. I feel bad for them because you walk through the bra section and you have all these pretty bra’s and their largest size is a 30C or something. Which is totally unfair. AND not to mention that one size in one shop or brand could mean a totally different size in another. OR you are unlucky enough to be one of the few people who slip through the sizes. Have you ever seen a size 27B or even a 29D? Nope. It’s like shoe sizes but you have to sacrifice allot of comfort.

Because if you wear the wrong size bra, you are met with a wholllleeeee list of bad things. Back pain, chest pain (in dire situations), bad body posture, lack of self esteem (yep, wrong bra sizes affect your mental health too!), breast ache and bad breast ligaments (bet you didn’t know that!) and sometimes you can get bad skin conditions. Redness, dryness or even marks left by the bra itself. SO! Bra’s can cause a whole lotta problems but they can also improve some things too. (at the moment, I see a few but they are there~)


Now, that’s just the basics, because now you have to face a whole lot more. Underwire, push up, strapless, backless, padded, underwear sets and god knows what else is out there on the market. That is enough to make any person’s head spin. I mean how to choose what is right for you without sacrificing confidence and such? With women being constantly pushed down for looks and shamed for being too revealing or too basic. The truth is, you don’t. It is like that silly diagram, you have to choose between looks, comfy level, correct size and practicality. You only get to pick two. Good Luck.

The reason I am having this half rant, half grumble is because pregnancy does things to your entire body. Namely, hormones. For the past week or so my bra’s have been getting increasingly less comfy and more a pain in my moody butt. And the idea of buying a whole new bunch of bra’s makes me wanna cry. Like full on bawl, because even my lucky bra is causing me pain. *Grumble Grumble*

So, the best thing to do is to buy three or four comfy bra’s, two ‘Sexy’ bra’s and then any others you prefer and only wear them outside the house. Because why would you need them inside? Hm, maybe if you needed the suppose to get rid of more harsh back pain…You see? The problems never end for women. And this is just for bra’s. Don’t even get me started on clothes in general…

End of rant?

♥ Alpicasso


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The Big Step

In keeping with the spirit of a new blog, the first thing I want to talk about is the subject of Babies. Having found out I am currently 6 weeks pregnant, this has become a very important thing to me. And trust me, there is so much advice, what not to do and lists out there for the mum to be’s, that the whole thing is a little overwhelming at the start.

So let’s start with breaking the B-bomb to the family. Good or bad, baby news is a big thing. It’s exhilarating, completely terrifying and overall a jumble of hormones. For couples who have been trying, the news is often met with extreme happiness. For couples that have just done a test and still sat on the toilet, it’s a little bit less and allot more shock. Baby news gives everyone a mix of emotions when they hear it and I have just been witness to firsthand at this.

Most will be supportive and happy, being excited for you and wanting to prepare with you are the main aspects they offer. Where as some others that you care about might react with a little lack luster. This isn’t because they are angry at you or anything. But they are worried about you overall, as a baby is a lifetime commitment and many aren’t ready for this. But try to remember that you are the keeper of your own life and where these worries might be good to listen too, don’t let that dampen the joy of having a baby can bring.

I have spent the last few days looking up pregnancy and new born hints and tips, like how to bathe a newborn with or without a bath support. The importance of a muslin cloth and not to get crazy when buying stuff for the baby. Also the importance of books and clothes are sort of equal as the first few weeks the baby doesn’t really need fancy clothes. Also, Mothercare is great for items that you had no idea of but terrible for wallet and budget. So, second hand is a god send, as is Amazon. The things that I have found very good are namely Emma’s Diary (Blessing I found within the first few hours) and the main Cow&Gate, SMA or Aptimil sites. Not only are they great for feeding tips, but they have whole sections on pregnancy.

Overall, the first few weeks after finding out are a waiting game. It’s all a countdown to my first Antenatal appointment, then it will be looking through everything she or he gives me to focus on. I will post next week to go over morning sickness and the lovely little pill called Folic Acid.

♥ Alipcasso